5 Minute Videos
Clarifying what children need from you to make your environment "home."
Video Series:
- Traits of Future-Success
- Power Struggles, Conflict, & Consequences
- Up, Not Out Education
- Work at Play & Play at Work
- Family Travels
- Family Meal Time
- Technology: Recognizing the Pitfalls
- Great Scenes, Summer Ed
- Foundations for Adulthood
- Guarding Hope, Wonder, & Dreams
Gifting Children 8 Traits of Success
Equipping Adults to Have Vision for Children's Future Success
and intentionally leading them into those necessary traits
Read the article which inspired these 8 traits of success here
Want to gift your children the 8 traits of future success?
Start here with defining "what is success?" in three different categories.
These definitions will impact how you go about implementing techniques and gifting these traits.
Trait #1: Gifting Children the Ability to Delay Gratification
Take the first step in giving the children in your sphere a successful future by giving them the skills to delay gratification, not just for more marshmallows, but for a healthier, happier life.
Trait #2: Gifting Children Conscientiousness
How can we help children be self-aware without the anxiety and shame in weaknesses or pride and arrogance of strengths?
Here are two practical tips to assist children in developing this trait when they are young.
Trait #3: Gifting Children the Belief In Free Will
How do we help children make the best choices possible for their lives? Show them their choices matter!
Trait #4 & 6: Gifting an Open Network & Avid Reading
How can we open up various viewpoints to the world around us within our various circumstantial constraints?
Joining up with trait #6, avid reading, here is one helpful tool to acquire helpful guides and wider experiences and viewpoints, opening your network.
The Dangers to Avoid in Open Network & Avid Reading
As we gift open networks & avid reading, these two assets could lead to getting lost in a myriad of viewpoints & experiences leading to a loss of self.
Keep open network & avid reading an asset, not a liability, to discovering self with this one helpful interaction.
Traits #5 & 8: Raising Problem Solvers, Not Whiners
Surprisingly childhood adversity is a quality of future success in kids! Or maybe it isn't so surprising because it can have the potential to produce the grit necessary to overcome obstacles.
However, we don't need to give children a bad childhood to keep it filled with enough adversity to develop grit.
Watch this video for the one key characteristic for developing grit in kids.
Success Trait #7: Gifting Success Amidst Bad Experiences
When you feel good about what you have done, it is only natural to want to do it again.
But what about those activities with a bad experience?
Be the adult who guides children into successes where previously they have failed.
The Must-Have Tool for Future Success!
We've discussed how to give kids the 8 fundamental traits used to predict future success throughout this series, based on an article by Brianna Wiest at forbes.com.
Explore this one final tool to implement which builds the muscles of many of those 8 traits.
HINT: Kids love this! And adults can too, when stewarded well by being fully engaged.
Read the article which inspired these 8 traits of success here
Power Struggles, Conflict, & Consequences
Equipping Adults to Avoid Power Struggles while Embracing Conflict & Consequences
Leading Children into maturity by gifting power & self-control
Avoiding Power Struggles? or Conflict? The difference & why it matters
Adults often see value in avoiding power struggles with kids, but often this turns into avoiding all conflict with kids.
As adults, we need to know the difference between these even when children are young so we can assist these youth to grow into happy, responsible adults.
Three practical ways to ACT powerfully & guide children into maturity
Are you powerful & confident in having conflict with children?
When boundaries are crossed, these three tips are key to assist children growing up to become responsible, healthy adults.
How to healthily give power away to children with OPT
Giving power will allow children to practice their power in a safe setting and impress on them the importance of self-control as they make decisions and reap the consequences (both good and bad) in low pressure situations.
What do you do if a child doesn't pick up their toys?
How do we get a kid to do what they are supposed to do?
When powerful adults engage with powerful children, how do we engage with each other when boundaries are crossed?
Explore more with ACT and OPT and how they work best together.
The costs and rewards of conflict
It's two in the morning and a kid is delusional from exhaustion, crying and waking up the whole house while refusing to communicate her needs.
Conflict is never convenient. We need to keep long-term reward in mind when engaging in the immediate conflict.
What is the reward?
Confidently enforce boundaries with kids
A bit nervous about enforcing boundaries with kids?
Our environment and child's SUCCESS DEPENDS ON US to engage in conflict with confidence.
Here is one tip for you to gain confidence in conflict situations with children.
Your back door when conflict cannot happen immediately
There are selected times when conflict needs to be postponed.
Here is a phrase and a plan to help you briefly acknowledge the problem to be addressed later.
WARNING: USE THIS DOOR WITH CAUTION!
Up, Not Out Education
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Summer Field Trips
Series to intentionally plan trips to increase impact and memorability! -
Over-Providing
Three things 21st century educative environment provides too much -
Making Memorable Moments
Extract the magical out of the ordinary and engage in the moment -
Creating Your Story
Increase impact with developing a meaningful story to invite student into
Work at Play & Play at Work
Increase Connection and Happiness in All Areas of Life
Equipping Adults to Engage with Work and Play
Walking the Tightrope to Happiness Together
Videos in this Series
How are you engaging with work and play and why it matters
As adults, we have connotations to work and play that are not always healthy. Begin breaking down these seeming polarities by becoming aware of how you view them and act from those views.
How to jump the the work/play divide?
Increase connection as you break down the divides of work and play amongst adults and children.
Three Blessings of Work in the Home
Work is crucial to the building of family.
Here are three reasons to "fight" for work in your home for everyone.
Four Keys to Unlock Successful Work Implementation at Home
Work has its benefits, but can be simpler (and quicker) to complete tasks ourselves.
When we add the company of our kids in chores and duties around the house, it is good to have a plan to better the chances of success.
Here are four keys to use while planning in order to receive those benefits of work, rather than more stress and frustration or a headache.
The Best Tool to Bridge Work and Play in the Home
Memories of learning together, working as a team, and potentially some nerve-racking risk await resulting in stronger unity!
Get ready to have fun . . . and put in some hard, satisfying work.
The Magic Time to Incorporate Play into your Home
Play is a powerful tool to connect us to a moment and to each other. Listen for the optimal time to incorporate familial play into your home.
Why Kids Need Adults Playing in Everyday Life
Play is engaging and bringing ones self into a moment or activity. It requires personal involvement. Risk.
Kids need to observe "playing" adults in everyday life...even without them. Be inspired to jump start your play today!
Want More?
Discover the tightrope life between work and play while reigniting the hope, dreams, and wonder too often lost to the stage of childhood. In your recovery of these child-like qualities, you will guard them in children around you as they grow in maturity.
Family Travels
Decrease Stress and Increase Connection
Equipping Adults to Succeed While Traveling
Reduce the stress of traveling and increase the impact of memories made
Videos in this Series
How to reduce stress in your traveling schedule
There is always so much that needs to fit into a family vacation. Catch this tip to make your travel memories more impactful and the time you fill less stressful.
How to reduce stress amidst the unknown during travel
The unknown adventure is part of the fun of traveling. However it can create stress and uncertainty, especially for young kids. Listen for three tips to reduce the stress of the unknown and the unfamiliar leading to increased peace and security for your travels.
How to reduce stress during travel time
All travel includes just that: time traveling. Whatever the mode, it takes at least some time to go somewhere and this time can be stressful for everyone! Listen for some tips to make this time less stressful . . . and even into a fun memory!
How to Reduce Stress by Increasing Connection During Travels
Often times our travels can lead to individuals adrift without purpose, which can actually cause stress and division.
Listen for one fun tool to make your travels less stressful . . . and increase connection as well!
How to Reduce Stress in Transitioning Back Home
All travel time must come to an end and a transitioning back into the normalcy of life. This transition can be stressful and what limited energy is left may be put towards complaining and moaning inducing even more stress.
Listen for some tips to make this transition time less stressful . . . and increase the impact of the memories made!
Equipping Adults with a Plan for Family Meal Times
Approach your table with confidence so you can achieve the connection your family longs for
Videos in this Series
How to Foster Connection in Your Family
There are so many obstacles to overcome when faced with family meal times.
Gain vision for the importance of a consistent family meal time so you will persevere through those obstacles and achieve what every person longs for.
One Way to Increase Familial Happiness
Once meal times become consistent, there is a potential for them to become flat and mundane . . . even with good conversation!
Uplift the ordinary as you implement this simple tool and notice your happy memories explode!
How to enjoy family grocery shopping
Set up great family meals with great family shopping trips to get the food you will eat together.
Receive some practical tips and make your grocery outings special trips to look forward to!
Simple tips to involve the whole family in meal prep and clean up
Transitions to and from the dining room table can be tricky.
Ease those transitions by involving children in the food process before and after the meal. Here are a few tips to get you started in involving the whole family.
Three tips to help you through picky eating
Kids won't always eat the food served.
However, we can help them make sure what they do put in is nutritious and building good eating habits.
How to help kids mind their manners
Meal time can be a time to connect, but also a time to learn social expectations.
Receive some tips to experiment with at your dinner table.
Technology
Recognizing the Pitfalls
Equipping Adults to Count the Cost of Technology
Critically think about your implementation of technology and make sure you are doing it wisely
Videos in this Series
What are books costing your family?
We love books and everyone sings praises of books, but books come with pitfalls often overlooked!
How the light bulb may be affecting the health of your family
Light bulbs are brilliant in multiple ways, but it may be costing your family. Lead healthier lives for you and your loved ones by creating awareness of what the pitfalls are and begin intentionally counteracting them!
What is Your Family Missing Out on with Constant Temp Control?
Air conditioning is so convenient and feels so nice on those hot summer days.
However, with such ease and convenience come some pitfalls.
How to Get Your Family Moving More
Our brains are programmed to conserve energy as a form of survival and cars save LOTS of energy.
However with with our sedately culture and modern conveniences, like the car, we need to be able to direct the thoughts of our brains so we get our bodies, and our families, moving more!
Why we chose to live without a dishwasher
Your dishwasher and microwave assist with speed surrounding meal times.
However, this rushed attitude around food may be costing your family beyond nutrition.
Where are Your Photos Going?
Photos are fun to share with others and to recount memories with loved ones.
However, it can be easy to lose the life-story, and the picture, in amidst all the photo clutter. Make a plan on how to use your camera that will benefit, not cost, your family.
We know digital distraction is costing us, but do you know how much?
There is so much convenience and access with these smart phones!
However, the pitfalls to the smart phone and the necessity for "unplugging" are commonly talked about. We need a plan for our use of one of the newest technologies!
Equipping Adults to Direct Great Scenes
Create connection through memorable moments this summer
Videos for this Series
Weather Getting You Down?
Let us enter into your rainy days and help you make memorable moments!
Want a Less Stressful Summer?
This summer, get off the continual moving sidewalk of entertainment to make your summer full of great scenes you will remember for years to come.
Avoid Three Pitfalls of Family Vacations
Your perfect vacation requires this one thing you won't want to forget and will help make your adventure filled with great scenes that will last a lifetime.
Three Types of Walks to Enjoy as a Family
Walking has several benefits you can take advantage of this summer.
Listen to three ways you can take those walks and transform them into great scenes.
Walks will be something the whole family looks forward to!
Turn this Necessity into an Experience!
Food is an essential for us all and can become a highlight for your whole family.
Use these three tips to connect your family to the source of their food, increase their gratitude, and make great scenes.
Want More Great Scenes?
Begin Your Up, Not Out Journey!
In becoming adults, most people leave behind many of the best characteristics of their childhood, including HOPE, WONDER, DREAMS, FREEDOM, and PLAY. This loss by relegation leaves us pursuing, but rarely acquiring, the happiness of childhood.
“Up, Not Out” is the adult journey to reclaim the characteristics of childhood and the full life they provide. Along the way, we will receive the vision and tools necessary to be healthy relational leaders who influence the next generation, a generation we can guard as they grow “Up, Not Out.”
Equipping Adults of the 21st Century
Vision & tools to build strong foundations for the growing children in your lives
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The Strongest Way To Give Security to Your Household
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What Women Long for From Men
Women may no longer need "saving" in our social world, so what is the Prince's new role? -
Bringing Home the Bacon: Providing Beyond the Basics
With a large number of families living beyond survival, we need to reimagine what excellent parent leaders can provide. -
Reimagining Family Unity Intentionally
Bring unity to your family with the gift of clear vision and identity.
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Blessings of Increased Value for Childhood
In an ever-swirling world of information overload and busyness burnout, the beauty and purity of humanity in the hopes, wonder, dreams, freedom, and play found most often in childhood, speaks to us ever more attractively of our roots. -
Timidity in Discipline Destroys Families
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Caring for Kids is Manly
Men are redefining "manly" as the Patriarchal Father and the Goofball Dad come together into the relationally healthy man of the 21st century. -
Redefining Vision for One's Lifespan
It is time we value and honor each stage of life so we have stronger families and healthier people.
More on Leading as Men of the 21st Century
Equipping Adults Who Guard Childhood
Vision & tools for clarity in interacting with children to guard their hope, wonder, & dreams
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How to Meld Child-likeness with Responsibility
Gain vision and tools from Mary Poppins who shows us how. -
One Fun Tool To Avoid Bad Scenes with Children
Gain tips from two of Harry Potter's professors to elevate the mundane or turn a nightmare into a laughable moment. -
Change this One Mindset to Improve Your Parenting
Gain vision and tools from the Fellowship of the Ring who guide with wisdom and lend their strength to one with a burden to bear.
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What is a Busy Lifestyle Costing Your Family?
Gain vision and tools from Winnie-the-Pooh willing to just do "nothing" with others. -
One Way to Enhance Your Leadership
Gain vision and tools from Mufasa, both a father and a king, and see the ways in which personal excellence can gift our children for their own futures. -
Give Purpose and Dignity to Children with this One Paradigm Shift
Gain vision and tools from Peter Pan in the film Hook who needs help in remembering how to fly. -
What You Can Give Your Children for when You are Not with Them
Gain vision and tools from Paddington's Aunt Lucy who is able to guide while absent.